Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavor – art, science, commerce – and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust.

It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway.

And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward.

In Trust, Knowing When To Give It, When To Withhold It, How To Earn It And How To Fix It When It Gets Broken, Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible.

Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

Boundaries, a New York Times bestseller, will give you the tools you need to learn to say yes and know how to say no.

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries.

Since it was first published, Boundaries has supported millions of people around the world as they discover the importance of understanding their limitations and upholding their boundaries.

In this updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend answer the most common questions they've received in more than thirty years that they've studied the science behind establishing boundaries:

• Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
• What are legitimate boundaries?
• How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
• What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
• How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
• Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
• How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
• Aren't boundaries selfish?

Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today!

Offers a down-to-earth plan to help us recover from the wounds of the past and grow more and more into the image of God.

Many of us struggle with anxiety, loneliness, and feelings of inadequacy. We know that God created us in his image, but how can we be loving when we feel burned out? How can we be free when we struggle with addiction? Will we ever enjoy the complete healing God promises?

Changes That Heal by renowned psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud offers a down-to-earth plan to help us recover from the wounds of the past and grow more and more into the image of God. Combining his professional expertise and personal experience, Dr. Cloud guides us through four basic ways to become joy-filled, mature followers of Christ:

- Connect more deeply with others

- Separate from others in healthy ways

- Understand the good and the bad in ourselves and others

- Grow into greater emotional and spiritual maturity

With fascinating case studies and helpful techniques we can start using immediately, Changes That Heal reminds us that God promises to complete his good work in us.

Boundaries with Kids will help parents: Recognize the boundary issues underlying child behavior problems Set boundaries and establish consequences with kids Get out of the nagging trap Stop controlling their kids---and instead help their children develop self-control Apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting Take six practical steps for implementing boundaries with their kids Want to Paint a Happy Future for Your Children? Start Drawing the Line Today. One of the most loving things parents can do for their children is set firm boundaries with them. Boundaries with Kids will help the parents in your group raise their kids to take responsibility for their own actions, attitudes, and emotions. In eight sessions, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer tools and insights for bringing order to problematic circumstances and cultivating healthier parent-child relationships in the home. This leader s guide gives you the clear, step-by-step instructions you need to maximize interaction, support, and insights within your group. Most of the preparation has been done for you---just follow the easy-to-use lesson plan, complete with helpful tips. Because this book includes the full text of the participant s guide, it s the only guidebook you need to track page-for-page with your group. Boundaries with Kids sessions: 1. Building Character in Kids 2. Kids Need Parents with Boundaries 3. The Law of Sowing and Reaping and the Law of Responsibility 4. The Laws of Power and Respect 5. The Laws of Motivation and Evaluation 6. The Laws of Proactivity and Envy 7. The Laws of Activity and Exposure 8. Six Steps to Implementing Boundaries with Your Kids"

This New York Times bestselling and award-winning book helps readers set healthy boundaries in order to be the loving people God created, and now offers a whole new chapter. Are you in control of your life? Christians often focus so much on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits and limitations. Have you ever found yourself wondering: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries?In this Gold Medallion Award-winning book and New York Times bestseller, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions, and show you how to set healthy boundaries with your parents, spouses, children, friends, coworkers, and even with yourself. This updated and expanded edition specifically addresses boundaries in the digital age, online dating, single parenting, and the workplace.Boundaries are personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not, and influence all areas of your life - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.Unpacking ten laws of boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend show you how to bring new health to your relationships. You'll discover firsthand how sound boundaries give you the freedom to walk as the loving, giving, fulfilled individual God created you to be.

In this Christian alternative to the phenomenal bestseller "The Secret," acclaimed author dr. Henry Cloud helps readers discover truths that make life work and show how faith can guide them in achieving their goals--now available in paperback
The Bible claims that God has provided special truths that can change lives and uplift the spirit, but often those truths lie dormant and untapped within the soul. Offering a positive alternative to "The Secret "based on biblical scripture, Dr. Henry Cloud reveals that there is indeed a power of attraction ruling the universe--the attraction between God and his creation--and demonstrates how that power can shape our lives. With step-by-step practical instructions, this book teaches readers from all walks of life how to apply spiritual truths to real life. Even Christians who think they understand biblical truths often don't know how to use them. Chapters on happiness, relationships, purpose, and God, share secrets like, "you attract to yourself relationships that fit you," "whatever you put to use will grow," and "there is no such thing as disconnected and happy." "The Secret Things of God "reveals profoundly simple secrets and gently guides readers toward unlocking the power of these truths in everyday life.

"Dr. Cloud will show you how to produce the results you are looking for in your work and personal life." -Dr. Phil McGraw, #1 New York Times bestselling author From Dr. Henry Cloud, the million-copy selling author of Boundaries and Integrity, comes The One-Life Solution, an essential handbook that demonstrates how establishing a successful, happy, and rewarding business career can be achieved by setting physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual boundaries. Anyone who finds the chaos of the workday spilling over into their personal and family time-everyone who has ever wanted to have more control over the work and home aspects of their life-will find valuable answers in The One-Life Solution.

Rules for Romance That Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating will revolutionize the way you handle relationships. Even if you re happily dating, the insights you ll gain from this much-needed book will help you fine-tune important areas of your dating life. Designed to accompany Boundaries in Dating, this workbook is your map for traveling the dating road. It s filled with pointed assessments, insights, questions for thought and discussion, and principles for you to put into practice in your relationships with the opposite sex. The Boundaries in Dating Workbook helps you deal with four critical concerns you face as a single person: You and Your Boundaries Whom Should I Date? Solving Dating Problems When You re Part of the Problem Solving Dating Problems When Your Date Is the Problem Written by the authors of the best-selling book Boundaries, this workbook can help you enjoy the kind of smart, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you ve longed for."

Based on the incredible success of the book What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer a line of books that address specific crises and some of the most prevalent problems facing our culture today. These books give readers a starting point to deal with their problems. Beautifully designed in a full-color small format, these books are perfect for giving to a friend in distress.

The New York Times bestselling book Boundaries has helped millions understand that being a loving Christian does not mean never saying no. This newly updated and expanded companion workbook provides practical exercises for setting boundaries in marriage, parenting, business, and friendships in a digital age. Following the newly updated and expanded edition of Boundaries chapter-by-chapter, this interactive workbook helps you look at specific relationships in your own life. With those situations in mind, you can ask and answer: Why do I feel guilty about setting clear boundaries? What if the boundaries I set hurt the other person? Is it difficult for me to hear no from others? What are examples of legitimate boundaries at work and home? How can I have good boundaries online? How can I stay connected while still setting boundaries with my phone? In what ways do I need to set better boundaries with social media? Boundaries Workbook gives a biblical foundation and practical tools for helping others respect your boundaries-whether you are not responding to a text message immediately or saying no when someone asks you to volunteer for one more activity. Discover firsthand how good boundaries give you the freedom to live as the loving, generous, fulfilled person God created you to be.

Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage. Dating can be fun, but it's not easy. Meeting people is just the first step. Once you've met someone, then what? Should you move on, pursue a simple friendship, or more? How do you set smart limits on your physical relationship? How much do you get involved financially? And how do you know if you've found your future spouse? In Boundaries in Dating, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, answer all of these questions and more. Helping you bridge the pitfalls of dating, Drs. Cloud and Townsend share their practical advice for adding healthy boundaries to your dating life. Boundaries in Dating unfolds a wise, biblical path to developing self-control, freedom, and intimacy. Let Drs. Cloud and Townsend help you get to know yourself, solve problems, and enjoy the journey of dating and finding your life partner. Full of insightful, real-life examples, this much-needed book will give you the tools you need to: Recognize and choose quality over perfection in a dating partner Prioritize friendship within your relationship Preserve friendships by separating between platonic relationships and romantic interest Move past denial to handle real relational problems in a realistic and hopeful way Enjoy this season of life Don't forget to check out the Boundaries collection of books and workbooks dedicated to key areas of your life, including dating, marriage, parenting kids, raising teenagers, and leadership.

Aprenda cuando decir que si y cuando decir que no ---a su conyuge y a otras personas--- para lograr lo maximo en su matrimonio. Solo cuando el esposo y la esposa conocen y respetan las necesidades, opciones y libertades del otro, pueden entregarse el uno al otro con libertad y amor. Los limites son los 'linderos' que definen y protegen a los esposos y esposas como individuos. Una vez que esos linderos estan en su lugar, un matrimonio que es bueno puede ser mejor, y el matrimonio que es menos que satisfactorio incluso puede salvarse. Los Drs. Henry Cloud y John Townsend, asesores y autores del galardonado exito de libreria Boundaries Limites], le muestran a las parejas como aplicar las diez leyes de los limites que pueden cambiar por completo sus relaciones personales. Ellos ayudan a los esposos y esposas a comprender los puntos de friccion o las heridas serias y traiciones en su matrimonio y a avanzar mas alla de eso hacia el cuidado, el respeto, la afirmacion y la intimidad mutua que ambos anhelan. Limites para el matrimonio ayuda a las parejas a * Fijar y mantener limites personales y respetar los de su conyuge * Establecer valores que forman una estructura y arquitectura santa para su matrimonio * Proteger su matrimonio de los diferentes tipos de 'intrusos' * Trabajar con un conyuge que entiende y valora los limites o con uno que no los entiende."

Learn when to say yes and when to say no--to your spouse and to others--to make the most of your marriage Only when a husband and wife know and respect each other s needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries are the property lines that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning best-seller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage---and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for. Boundaries in Marriage helps couples: * Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse * Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage * Protect their marriage from different kinds of intruders * Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries---or work with one who doesn t"

This hands-on workbook companion to Changes That Heal will help you apply Dr. Henry Cloud's revolutionary four steps of healing to your everyday decisions and relationships. Though we cannot change the past or control people in our lives today, we can change who we are and how we relate to others. What changes do you need to make to discover more joy, richer relationships, and freedom from old wounds? In this workbook companion to the groundbreaking bestseller Changes That Heal, Dr. Henry Cloud guides us through the four crucial tasks we need to complete on our way to lasting healing and growth: Connect deeply with others Set healthy boundaries at work, home, and church Distinguish between good and bad in ourselves and others Become mature emotionally, spiritually, and relationally Dr. Cloud helps you move forward with each task, overcome hurdles along the way, and draw closer to God. With chapter-by-chapter reflection questions, application ideas, prayers, and Bible study prompts, Changes That Heal Workbook is a great companion for both groups and individuals. Take your spiritual growth another step in this practical, life-changing guide to your personal healing.

Wall Street Journal bestseller An expert on the psychology of leadership and the bestselling author of Integrity, Necessary Endings, and Boundaries For Leaders identifies the critical ingredient for personal and professional wellbeing. Most leadership coaching focuses on helping leaders build their skills and knowledge and close performance gaps. These are necessary, but not sufficient. Using evidence from neuroscience and his work with leaders, Dr. Henry Cloud shows that the best performers draw on another vital resource: personal and professional relationships that fuel growth and help them surpass current limits. Popular wisdom suggests that we should not allow others to have power over us, but the reality is that they do, for better or for worse. Consider the boss who diminishes you through cutting remarks versus one who challenges you to get better. Or the colleague who always seeks the limelight versus the one who gives you the confidence to finish a difficult project. Or the spouse who is honest and supportive versus the one who resents your success. No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of the others in their lives. Combining engaging case studies, persuasive findings from cutting-edge brain research, and examples from his consulting practice, Dr. Cloud argues that whether you're a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Presenting a dynamic model of the impact these different kinds of connections produce, Dr. Cloud shows readers how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don't have a choice whether or not others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.

What the Award-Winning Boundaries Has Done for Adult Relationships, Boundaries with Kids Will Do for You and Your Children This workbook helps you put the principles detailed in Boundaries with Kids to work in your family. Here at last is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of establishing family boundaries and cultivating sound character in your children. The clear, helpful exercises and applications in the Boundaries with Kids Workbook will help you make the leap from understanding to * identifying the boundary issues underlying child behavior problems * setting boundaries and establishing consequences with your kids * getting out of the nagging trap * relinquishing control and helping your child develop self-control instead * applying the ten laws of boundaries to parenting * taking six practical steps for implementing boundaries with your kids Step by step, you will take strides toward bringing control to an out-of-control family life, setting limits while still being a loving parent--and above all, instilling in your children the godly character that is the foundation for healthy, productive adult living."

Lo que el galardonado Limites ha hecho por las relaciones entre adultos, Limites para nuestros hijos lo hara con ustedes y sus hijos. Aqui esta la ayuda que necesita para criar a unos hijos que tomen responsabilidad por sus actos, actitudes y emociones. Los doctores Henry Cloud y John Townsend les guiaran por la complicada travesia de formar un caracter en sus hijos que los ayude tener una vida adulta balanceada, productiva y llena de satisfaccion. APRENDA A: *Fijar limites manteniendose como un padre amoroso *Traer control a una vida familiar que esta fuera de control *Aplicar la 10 leyes de limites paternales *Definir los limites y las consecuencias adecuadas para sus hijos y mucho mas."

Whether you re a new or seasoned group leader, or whether your group is well-established or just getting started, the Making Your Small Group Work DVD and participant s guide (sold seperately) will lead you and your group together to a remarkable new closeness and effectiveness. Designed to foster healthy group interaction and facilitate maximum growth, this innovative approach equips both group leaders and members with essential skills and values for creating and sustaining truly life-changing small groups. Created by three group life experts, the two DVDs in this kit include: * Four sixty-minute sessions on the foundations of small groups that include teaching by the authors, creative segments, and activities and discussion time. * Thirteen five-minute coaching segments on topics such as active listening, personal sharing, giving and receiving feedback, prayer, calling out the best in others, and more. Formerly titled ReGroup."

Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavour - art, science, commerce - and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust. It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway. And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward. Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible. Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

You've heard it all before. The promises for a better life get tiresome after awhile, because you know they don't deliver. However, they do touch on a profound and inescapable truth. You were created to live your life out of a rewarding, richly textured relationship with God and others---and deep down, you long to experience that kind of life. But how?Are you willing to devote sixty days to finding out?Soul Revolution may be one of the most important books you'll ever read. In it, author and pastor John Burke guides you on a journey of experiential discovery. Called the '60-60 Experiment, ' it has already made a profound impact on thousands who have discovered what it means to actually 'do life' with God.

In "Integrity", Dr. Cloud explores the six qualities of character that define integrity. He uses stories from well-known business leaders like Michael Dell and sports figures like Tiger Woods to illustrate each of these qualities. He shows us how people with integrity: are able to connect with others and build trust; are oriented toward reality; finish well; embrace the negative; are oriented toward increase; have an understanding of the transcendent; and, success is not related to only talent or brains. There are a lot of bright, talented people who are never successful. And the most successful are not only the ones with the most talent. The real factor, Cloud demonstrates, is the makeup of the person. All of us can grow in the kinds of real character that bring about fruitful relationships and achievement of purpose, mission, and goals. Integrity is not something that you either have or don't, but instead is an exciting growth path that all of us can engage in and enjoy.

CinderGirl is a gripping and inspiring story of one young woman’s determination to overcome hardship in order to help others know they are not alone and they too can find wholeness after tragedy.

Her mother called her “laundry lady,” “stupid,” and “slut” so often that Christina Meredith rarely heard her own name as she grew up. Now Christina devotes her name to protecting abused and neglected children so no one has to have a childhood like hers.

Born into a large working-class family in upstate New York, Christina endured years of psychological and physical abuse before entering the foster care system as a teenager. With nowhere to turn after she graduated high school, Christina lived in her car for almost a year, working three jobs to survive.

As she read her Bible in her car every day, always looking over her shoulder for her birth mother, Christina had no idea that in just a few years she would be crowned Ms. California. She had no idea that her suffering would one day help others find their own healing. She did know God was faithful. And she never gave up hope for a better life.

In CinderGirl, Christina tells her incredible story of leaving behind abuse and homelessness to become Ms. California and the founder of the Christina Meredith Foundation, a nonprofit organization that provides support for foster care girls living in abusive situations.

With stunning vulnerability, Christina invites us into her childhood home and the heart of a child longing to be loved. She asks us to journey with her across the country and deep into a growing faith. She invites us to know more fully a God who provides, even in the most difficult situations. CinderGirl is a gripping and inspiring story of one young woman’s determination to overcome hardship in order to help others know they are not alone and they too can find wholeness after tragedy.

Dr. Henry Cloud, bestselling author of the Boundaries series, offers a life-changing book that provides ten strategies for overcoming self-defeating life patterns that will help you redirect your mistakes and make way for success--physically, personally, and spiritually. Everyone makes mistakes, big and small. Sometimes our mistakes take us down the wrong path and send us spiraling into destructive life patterns, and sometimes we learn our lesson and never make the same mistake again. But how? How do we recognize destructive patterns, make new choices, and then follow through? In Never Go Back, bestselling author Dr. Henry Cloud shares ten doorways to success--and once we walk through these new pathways, we never go back again. His proven method--based on grace, not guilt--outlines ten common life patterns that sabotage success and lays out clear, concrete steps you can take to overcome them. You'll see your relationships flourish, your personal life enhanced, and your faith strengthened. Dr. Cloud's powerful message reveals doorways to understanding--once you enter them, you will get from where you were to where you want to be. With a winning combination of eternal principles, spiritual wisdom, and modern scientific data, Never Go Back will put your heart in the right place with yourself and with God.

It takes tender strength to raise children of character and faith. What does it take to raise great kids? If you've read any books on parenting, conflicting opinions have probably left you feeling confused. Get tough! Show acceptance. Lay down the rules. Lighten up, already! There's got to be a balance between control and permissiveness. And there is. Drawing on the expert insights of counselors and award winning authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend and on the parenting wisdom of MOPS International (Mothers of Preschoolers), Raising Great Kids shows you how truth and grace go together. They are allies in your most challenging and rewarding task: raising children with character that can withstand life's rigors and make the most of its potential. Using principles described in Raising Great Kids, the Raising Great Kids Workbook for Parents of Preschoolers will guide you through those first, formative years in your child's life from infancy to age five. It's filled with sound Biblical information and expert advise. But most important, it supplies tools you can begin using today, from thought - provoking questions and self-assessments to an abundance of practical applications. Each chapter begins by introducing three or four key parenting principles, and ends with hands on exercise and a prayer that crystallize the concepts dealt with in that chapter. The Raising Kids Workbook for Parents of Preschoolers will help you start sowing the seeds of character early in your child's life for good fruit that lasts a lifetime.